Monday, July 9, 2007

Why communication is authentic in marital relationship

Communication between you and your husband is essential to marital happiness.Pressuming that your husband can read your mind or your feelings creates frustration and dissatisfaction in life.Your spouse cannot know just what you want to say,or expect him to do just because he is your husband.One has to speak up what one expect from one's spouse.Keeping your feelings,needs or desire to yourself without telling,will disappoint you and make you unhappy.But one must judge the time,need,preoccupation of the spouse and the need and urgency of the things.Most are personal matters and should be told in privateUse your discretion about when to tell,how to tell,receptivity of the spouse at that moment,financial position,work pressure and priority.Women are often hesitant lest they are admonished or rebuffed.There are lot many areas in daily life where things can move according to your requirement and wish, if you tactfully tell to your spouse.Most husbands are willing to do many small errands, provided you ask them.Good communication is important between husband and wife for this.
There are numerous occasions when you want the help of your husband or want to tell him about what you are thinking and planning:-- Help in household work-Help to guide the children in their studies.-Attending parent's day-Accompany her to market and help in selection of items-play with the children.-Monitoring the activities of children-Information about financial matters and need for money.-Write letters or speak on phone to her parents or relatives-want him to appreciate her and her services-Appreciate and praise her dress and make up-About taking you to picture,picnic spots etc.-taking the telephone calls and attending the callbell
The number of occasions when your husband can help you is innumerable,provided you can say it to him in the right way.Starting with"please" and ending with "thanks" for the help and showering some praise will make him do wonders.Most women remain dumb even in the matters of lovemaking.They are often able to convey what they do not like but fail to convey what they like or what they want to experiment, due to their shyness or due to the fear of bieng misunderstood.So try to be expressive and be bold enough to communicate your true feelings and views to him.This is how you are to go about it.

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